Sunday, January 17, 2010

Why does it seem that most childfree individuals are single?

Me, I'm a childfree individual and am staying that way as long as I live. But why are childfree individuals labled selfish?





Why do people who want kids bash people who don't want kids? Why would they harass childfree people over something petty?





Why does it seem that most childfree individuals, mostly men, are single?Why does it seem that most childfree individuals are single?
In my experience, it's been the opposite....I haven't met too many single men that are childfree! I was married to a man with two kids from two previous relationships...what a nightmare! There were good times of course, but between child support, visitation, and ';baby mama drama'; it was very tiring. I'm not saying all situations are like that, but a large amount of them are. Sadly, that along with other issues eventually dissolved the marriage.





I now know that I do not want any children of my own. If I had a dime for every well-meaning soul who has tried to ';convince'; me that I should have ';at least one child';, I could retire early! The bottom line is I don't feel the need to be a mother, I like my freedom, and my diabetes all but prohibits pregnancy at this point in time (and I'm 36).





I don't think I'm selfish. In fact, I think people who recognize the fact that they don't want to be or wouldn't make good parents, and prevent from having kids are very unselfish. There is nothing more selfish than to bring a child into an unhappy situation.





I think society just conditions many of us to believe that we grow up, get married, have kids. That's the natural order of things. If you don't follow that order then you're ';wrong';. I just happen to disagree, and I know I'm not alone. That could be one reason childfree men are single...they are just meeting women who do want children at some point.





Just my two cents...Why does it seem that most childfree individuals are single?
Well i myself am childfree. I believe it depends on the person. Like are you looking to date or are you just more comfortable being single!





I have a nephew and someday i may want a child, but i want to accomplish more things before i settle down that way. There's nothing wrong with not wanting kids. Kids are a load of responsibility and take up most of your space, so there's no room for being selfish.





I'm good where I am now, i love my nephew to pieces, but when play time is ova i get to give him back. Kids are great, but not for everyone!!
I know


If people like being single and childfree thats their problem!


an if people want to take care of babies and change diapers thats their problem too!!





I am HAPPY with my fiance and we dont want kids.
because they have not tasted the joy they can enjoy in the company of kids
I'm child free and I've been married for 4 years. screw what everyone says. if you don't want a kid, that's your prerogative
live the way u want to and dont bother about wat anyone else says!!!

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