2) Is it okay for childfree people to hate children or show frustrations because their dating pool is low and that most women want them?
3) If two people have been married for 8-10 years and agreed to never want children before marriage, but the wife changes her mind, what would she do? Would she keep her loving husband or end the marriage over something petty?Do childfree men really have it hard when it comes to relationships?
1) It would be very unfair; i don't know if it would be silly - it might actually work.
2) Yes. Why wouldn't it be? We all have different tastes.
3) She would probably try to change his mind. I don't know if she'd end the marriage if it doesn't work - maybe she would, maybe she wouldn't. Depends on the woman. Either way, women who want children don't typically see it as a ';petty'; matter. It's often very important to them.Do childfree men really have it hard when it comes to relationships?
If your wife decides she wants kids after the two of you have been together for a while, you can either
A. Decide if you want to have kids and stay with her
B. Decide if you don't want to have kids and leave.
Either way it goes, the need to have children is not going to go away anytime soon. So you should make up your mind if this is really what you want. If not, let her go so she can marry someone who's not afraid to be a father.
I don't think these men would have as much a problem if they would consider dating women who are older than they are. That's because those women either have children who are grown up or they aren't ever likely to have children if they haven't had them by now. Most men want to date younger women and they are the ones who are the most likely to want children.
You are one wiley wabbit. That is me trying to be cute while telling you I think you are slick. It is really only fair that you ask only one question at a time. You have just asked a multiple set of questions. Anyway I will try to answer your very first question. I am a childfree male and it makes it quite easy for me to have a relationship. A bonus answer for you. If I was to marry a lady that had no children but decided later down the line that she wanted to have children my love for her would make it easy for her to talk me into having the child. I would be willing to do whatever she wants to make her happy.
1. No. Only the person in question can change their mind about this.
2. How are children to blame for that? It's hardly as if they've conspired to make dating harder for childfree people.
3. It's not petty. The choice over whether or not to have children is momentous no matter how you slice it.
That is interesting.
If she wants something and he doesn't share the same feeling then it's time to end the marriage. It takes two to make it work and if it's just one person wanting something and other not wanting that same something then it will never work.
I personally worry more about women who then choose to conceive a child without their husband's consent (as in stopping the pill, for example).
But yes, every women gets there eventually; so it will be hard to maintain such a relationship. Start a new one?
With regards to your second point, I was under the impression that the number of childfree women has gone up drastically because it's become a more socially acceptable choice.
I have only one thing to say......
Hell no, it shouldn't be acceptable to HATE children.
People change their minds more often then not when it comes to the issue of wanting kids. Lots of people at an early age will say they never want kids (myself included) but most (definitely not all) will change their minds. Wanting children is not a petty issue and really is grounds for a separation. You can't give each other what is wanted and someone has to lose when it comes to kids or no kids, only the number of now many children can be compromised but that does not apply. The desire to have a child isn't something that you can forget, it is something that you can delay until your both ready but it won't leave.
And hating kids is mean but whatever.
1) It's a bit selfish of him to expect her to not have kids just because he doesn't want to. He should tell her that she can have kids, just not with him. Or, he can give in and have them. If I were the guy, I'd move on and let her find a man who wants kids, too.
2) Hate children? No. And the dating pool is the same. Unless you're strictly talking about marriage material. If I was just looking to date and screw, then I wouldn't even bring up children. Aside from what the plan is IF she gets pregnant.
3) Well, it's not very petty to want to continue your bloodline. But it's up to her if she wants to leave for such a reason.
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