Saturday, January 23, 2010

Why does it seem that childfree people have it the worse?

Let me point of some facts that we childfree people face.





* Parents or hopefuls often criticize people has no desire for children, calling them despicable names, telling them to go to hell.


* People always predict childfree people under 25 will change they mind, while most of them won't, compare to a minority who do.


* Doctors are very ageist and won't make people permanantly sterile until they're 25.


* Childfree people have more freedom with more oppotunities, while people into parenthood have to spend most of their time with children.


* It quite hard for young guys like me to find girls our age who does not want kids, since there's so many teen pregnancies these days.





I was 15 moving onto 16 when I knew I didn't want kids (no criticism). Do you think people who are in the childfree lifestyle have it very hard when it comes to relationships, and wanting to be permananty sterile at a young age, but may face age discrimination from doctors?Why does it seem that childfree people have it the worse?
i decide young i did not want kids, i had to go to three doctors to find one who would give me a vesectomy, i'm in my 40's now and have never regretted my decision. people have called me selfish, which is more selfish not wanting children and not having them or not wanting them and having them?Why does it seem that childfree people have it the worse?
Often, the thought of having children brings to mind multiple concepts. The idea of having a family is very attractive to most people, because, generally, structure, family, and security are things people highly value and prioritize. Having kids not only means getting pregnant and raising children, it requires people so share responsibility. It also implies that both of you expect to stay together long enough to raise the children. This is why it is so appealing to so many people.
I agree that childfree people might have it harder when it comes to relationships because a lot of people want to be in a relationship in hopes of starting a family WITH children. However there are some who simply want the companionship of another person.


Sorry I don't really know how you feel. I have kids and wouldn't change it for the world. :)
I've never met a person that chose to be sterilized (with or without kids) that didn't regret it later. Some even went on to adopt children. Which isn't a bad thing, but they still had regrets about not being able to have their own. I don't think a person should be permitted to do it before age twenty-five. That's just my opinion, though. I don't get to make the rules.
I have children and I have found that the people who orally terrorize childless people are the worst parents in the world.


These self proclaimed martyred and self-sacrificing parents should never have had children.
I'm a child development major. And my classes have talked about this subject. Many people do criticize about people who do not want to have kids. Since you're young, you might also change your mind later on. Many people fear of failing when they become parents themselves, or don't want to be like their parents, or that raising them are expensive, or it's time consuming, or that it would take away their professional career, or take away freedom and more responsibility, also some couples are also just happily married and just don't want to have kids.


For women, it is harder to have children when we're pass 40 years old. Our eggs are not as viable as it would when we're in our 20s.


It's also in our nature to have kids and to procreate. But for me if someone said that, i would think they would want to change their mind later on or not. It's ur choice and not of others.
I didn't want kids when I was around that age too, i'm 19 now, and i don't rule out the possibility of having a family, i'll just get to that when i want to settle down, however i don't understand why you want to make this a no going back decision... if you don't want to have kids, just wear condoms or don't have sex...





As for your question, yes... it is going to be very hard for someone that young to try to go through that process, the issue is, is that most people in their teen years are just trying to figure out who they are, and they always think they know what's best for them...I don't think this applies to all teenagers, but most change their entire lifestyle multiple times, in search for the one that fits them the best...





Maybe you don't want to have kids, and that will be a final decision even when you get older, however would it really be so bad to just get older (say 18-21) and wait? The decision is up to you, however from experience i will say that you don't want to do anything that will have a permanent affect on your life during your teen years... you might regret it...
I can't imagine why someone told you to go to hell, unless it's because you said something rude and critical about their desire to have children, right? People aren't against you because you personally don't want kids, it's because of your attitude.





Doctors have to assume you might change your mind as you get older because so many people do. Maybe you won't, so just be careful about birth control. Just because many teens and young women become accidental pregnant doesn't mean many of them are likely to want a child, with you, right now. Don't make it such a big issue. It shouldn't even come up unless you want to get married.

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