Why are parents so rude and judgemental towards the childfree?

Everytime, I ask why people wants and I don't want them, people always say I'll change my mind and all that. They always try to f**k with my mind, trying to discourage me from being childfree forever, which is why I'll more likely do.





I'm 19 moving to 20, I won't change my mind because I'm very uncomfortable around kids. For what these parents' criticisms, they've gained my strong hatred for them.





So, why are parents so rude and judgemental towards childfree people? Why do they always tell childfree people how to live their lives?





PS: I'd rather be single than put up with baby momma drama and the stress of kids. Most childfree people are single, right?Why are parents so rude and judgemental towards the childfree?
You don't have to explain anything to anyone, nor do you have to prove anything to anyone. I tell people that I don't want kids because I want to live life for myself.





To me that statement explains everything. I like being #1 in my life. I love my freedom. You can't put a price on freedom. It doesn't matter if you will change your mind because you're childfree right now. You might or you might not. Time will prove that one.





I'm 25. Childfree. Like another poster here said, she's religious about birth control, hehe, so am I. I've learned to ignore people, and live my happy go lucky life. If you want to win when you get into these heated arguments, try not to be rude, try not to get all angry and red faced.





Say your beliefs in a calm voice. They want to get you riled up, the way to win is to stay calm and keep a smile on your face. At least that is how I deal with rude customers at work. It works with other people as well.Why are parents so rude and judgemental towards the childfree?
your language skills are lacking. most people i know aren't rude and judgemental about much of anything, perhaps your attitude rubs people the wrong way! with your inability to even put your question in the right category, with your anger and your attitude, your 'strong hatred', your foul language, and your spelling, i would strongly suggest you don't have children - you should probably go get a vasectomy - soon - we don't need replicas of fools running around!
So young and rude, and yes its great to be childfree. Especially at 20 and untill you get school and your career started. But The only reason why other people may tell you that you may change your mind is because their is many people that do and many whom said i will never have children or get married!! So get over yourself and just have fun being 20 and stop worrying about what other people say!!
What the heck does this have to do with weddings?





Parents are stuck and they want you to be stuck too. Children are a lifetime committment and if you aren't prepared for that, you shouldn't have kids. You never know, you're only 20, you might change your mind, but don't let someone change it for you.
It probably goes both ways. Each group is rude to the other, who knows who started it? Not ALL people who have/want children tell those who don't how to live their lives. I want children more than anything yet I really don't care if someone doesn't want kids, it has nothing to do with my life.





P.S. ';payback'; is not a very mature concept.
They are probably rude because a part of them wants to be child-free again.





However, your post is very judgmental and rude too...





I know a few married people that are child-free and intend on staying that way...but we're in our mid-twenties so things may change.
I'm getting married and we plan to be child free.





I don't have a maternal bone in my body and my fiance doesn't want to bring kids into the messed up world we live in.
Wow dude - take your issues to the parenting section of Yahoo! Answers and leave the wedding section alone. Also, I'd suggest reading your Bible for some anger management therapy. Deal with your issues on your own.
Maybe they are rude because you are so angry. Who cares what others think? If you don't want kids then don't have them.





Also, why is this in weddings??
Everyone knows exactly what they want out of life by the time they鈥檙e 20 and never changes their minds.. *eye roll*
Maybe some people actually like kids.. *gasp* the world must be coming to an end!
Children suck.
Well, I think that maybe later in your life you will want kids. Right now I'm 20 as well and I don't want kids at all. In fact I'm so religious about my birth control, it's insane. Just because I don't EVER want to slip up.





I think your paternal instincts might kick in a little later in your life. Kids are a joy... but they're a lot of work too..





Don't poo poo parents, otherwise you wouldn't be here yourself :)
It may be because you are basically a child still. You're 19 and being thickheaded.





If you weren't afraid that you may change your mind then you wouldn't get so upset about what people say.





For the past 4.5 years I have heard it all because my husband and I have only one child and that is all we want. They constantly tell me that I will want more. I just ignore them and move the conversation on.





That's the difference between you and me - the level of maturity. I don't let it get to me.





When I was 19 I, too, didn't want any baby momma drama or the stress of kids. I was too young to be interested in anything that held too much responsibility. Then I grew up and 7 years later I popped out a kid, which has been drama free.
I know lots of childfree married people...I'm one of them! So are my sister and 4 out of my 6 brothers! We figure with 8 of us, we all got so sick of each other we just wanted some peace and quiet the rest of our lives! Parents tell their kids how to live their lives in all sorts of ways...they think it's their right and their duty. So you can either ignore them or come up with a pat line like ';I'm not interested in being a mom, I'll leave that to the women who really feel a need for children.'; Repeat as necessary and eventually they'll shut up.
Most of the people I know who have kids didn't plan them, and so I think there is still a part of people that wish the responsibilities weren't there, a feeling of missing out on not having to answer to anyone, or take care of anyone.





The older I get the more I want to have kids, but am not in the right place in my life, but I spent a good deal of time thinking I may never have them.





I suspect that most parents are rude to you because they see you as insulting their way of life, and their families, which they love very much. When you go against what society sees as the ';right thing to do';, you are often labeled and ostracized.





My advice would be to keep your opinions to yourself, and refuse comment when confronted.
I have been where you are.





To give you some background, I'm 41, female, and childfree (and married--so there are married CF people too!).





In my twenties I went through a little bit of a militant phase, a lot of childfree people do, where you let people know your stand on (not) having kids. When I was 20 I got the ';when you grow up and become more mature, you'll change your mind'; bingo too...and when I was 30...and 35...and now I get ';it's not too late!'; But I'm female, and to be female and say you don't want kids is a much bigger blasphemy than when a man says it. :-) Remember, society sees having kids as a responsible and mature thing to do. You probably see the news, so you can judge for yourself whether all parents are ';responsible'; and ';mature';. Also, a lot of people follow that life script to the letter without putting any thought into what they want out of life: got my degree--check. Got a decent job? Check. Spouse? Yep. Guess it's time to have kids!





So when you put it out there like that (indeed, even if you are just unapologetic about your decision), yeah, parents are going to be aggressive back because they feel like they, and their choices, are being personally attacked. And to a certain extent, maybe they are. Not that that's all bad, it's good to broaden peoples' horizons and let them know there are other ways of living one's life.





Eventually your CFness becomes part of who you are and you mellow out. You'll learn how to deal with the stupid narrow-minded comments (the ';bingos';), but sometimes people will ask you questions out of genuine curiosity, and that's where you can advance (y)our cause.





So live your life, pursue your dreams, and be happy. Remember--living well is the best revenge!
Why are you letting them get to you???





My grandmother's been bugging me about getting married since I was 20... I'm almost 35 and she still asks me almost everytime I talk to her on the phone. Everytime I'd answer.. ';I don't know';. Or ';first I have to have a victim I mean boyfriend grandma';, and I'd laugh. Until very recently I didnt have someone I really thought I could marry and be with forever. And I wasn't going to rush into anything just to satisfy my grandmother's need for me to be married. It wasnt until recently I started telling her... soon... because I actually DID find someone I want to marry! All that time though I never got pissed at her, lost my temper or anything. I just answered her... it was no big deal. And trust me, she's pushy!





You have to understand.. parents or grandparents hope that we experience all the wonderful happy things that THEY enjoyed too. Maybe your parents were very happy to have kids (as ungrateful as some of them may have turned out), and they don't want you to miss out on that. My grandmother wanted me to be married so I could experience the ';joy'; of being married. I can't hate her for that no matter how much she bugged me about it...





You shouldn't hate your parents for wanting you to be happy even if it's by their standards. If you think it'll make them leave you alone, next time tell them ';you'll see';. A very vague and ambigious answer.. because it doesnt say whether or not you're having kids. They'll assume you changed your mind and mean yes... when you really mean ';no you'll see that I'll never have kids';.





Bottom line... just live your life the way you want to... childfree. And don't let them get to you. If you let something THIS simple get to you, I can only imagine what's in store for you in the future. Good luck!