what is the best way to handle this more peacefully?My husband wants to divorce me because i want childfree,should i agree?
Your husband is cruel to call you names because you don't want to have children. You are not ';sick,'; you are sensible to realize that you don't want to be a parent. Being a parent is a huge responsibility. The only people who should have children are the ones who really, really want them and can't imagine life without them. Furthermore, you have the right to decide for yourself on this issue. It's your body.
Since your husband wants children and you don't, you should divorce. This is too big an issue to compromise on. Give him his freedom so that he can find a woman who feels the way he does. I would divorce him anyway, because he sounds like a real jerk.
Your husband also sounds rather unrealistic. 44 and 57 is rather late to be starting a family. Just think, if you become a parents next year, by the time your husband turns 60, you'll be dealing with toilet training. You'll be going through menopause while raising a rambunctious five-year-old. Later, when you are both ready to retire, you'll be saddled with a sullen, ungrateful teenager and trying to figure out how to pay for college. I wouldn't wish that on anyone.
I hope that you will get free of this man and find someone else who is OK with being childfree and whose personality is nicer and more supportive. At your age, you may not be able to get pregnant even if you want to, so the issue will be irrelevant in a few years no matter what.
My husband and I have been married with no children for over 20 years, by the way. We have never regretted our decision.
Good luck to you, and don't let anyone pressure you into having children that you don't want. It would be bad for you and even worse for the children.
Good luck to you.My husband wants to divorce me because i want childfree,should i agree?
He is 57 yrs old and wants children?
A good point if your in a debate, is that he will be 76 when his child be 19, its not fair to the child or to him, why don't he consider adopting a teenager, alot of kids are in adoption homes, and your not mentally sick because you don't want children.
And if he is threating you to divorce its because its not just about this issue... If he loved you, he would respect your stand on this issue and opt for adoption.
well I THINK ITS HARD becasue he wants one and u dont and if i were you I WOULD NOT GET PREGNANT AT 44!!! honey dont worry i totaly agree its dangerous for you to carry a baby at this age the risks are high the baby might not even have a father anymore when it graduates high school he will be almost 80!!! maby you guys can adopt a nice 9 year old boy that needs a home give hope to others and help the world every body needs a place to belong... just becasue he dint come from your body doesnt mean he cant bring great joy and love to your life THINK ABOUT IT this can be a WHOLE NEW BEGINNING!!
You should have discussed this before you got married. That would have been very wise. He shouldn't even care about having children because he is so old. He'll be dead by the time they're old enough to know him. You are not a mentally sick woman; you are smart for not having children with someone as psycho as he is.
no offense so please dont take it that way but just tell him there are to many risks having a baby at your age for you and the child and even besides that my fiancee is 23 and his mom is 63 and he regrets not having more time with her considering her age and all his other siblings are much older than him. no one wants to loose a parent but look at it this way when hes 85 and your72 hell only be 28 and kids need their parents so much longer than that
Why would your life be at risk?
You're not mentally ';sick';, and have a right to decide if you want children. At 57, what is HIS problem? Pregnancy for women over 40 carries elevated risks for you, and a 57 year old man isn't all that likely to be around to see a kid born now finish high school...
If he has threatened you over this, I'd see a lawyer for a divorce.
You should have worked this out before getting married. It's not all that uncommon not to want children - especially at your age - but if you don't want children it's really not fair to either of you to stay married.
have a child
what is the purpose of marraige if you will not use sex in its rightful place? the end of marraige is to 1st procreate.. come on.. why dont you want children? you want to be lonely when you reach the age of 70? come on.. children will make your life happy and exciting!
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