How to face people who dont like me because i want childfree life?

I am 44 and husband 57. I am very scared of facing such arguments with his friends ,relatives,especially his younger brither will have a babe in 2 weeks. They always yell at me blaming me. How to face them or just avoid?How to face people who dont like me because i want childfree life?
How does your husband feel about this? Discuss this with him and see if the two of you can present a united front. If they call you selfish, ask them why they'd want a selfish person to be a mother. Ask them why, if having babies is so wonderful, people have them so close together, as if they wanted to get it over with faster. Ask them why they yell at their kids so much. Ask them why they have kids that they clearly can't afford.


It may be that some of the above doesn't apply - in that case, think of some other uncomfortable questions. If you hound them enough, they might just be the ones to change the subject.





I suppose some people would argue that the direct approach is best and that the above is a bit sneaky. I would agree, but not everyone responds to the direct approach.





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His relatives are obeying a primitive instinct to keep the tribe going hence they get all upset if you don't have children.





Do they somehow think that you have let your husband down?





This is your life and your decision.





If they won't accept this then take another angle: point out that at the age of 44 there are real risks in getting pregnant and increased chance of a mentally disabled (Downs syndrome) child. That may just shut them up.





If they persist then I suggest you have no more to do with them - tell your husband, gently and kindly, that he is welcome to visit his family but that you won't be coming with him any more.
If they are always yelling at you for your life choices I would avoid them. They have no right to do that and you do not have to take it. Tell them when they consult you for their decisions that they can comment on yours but until then the subject is off limits. If they will not shut up stay away.
People who behave like that don't deserve a response. Rational people don't act like that. Your choice is just that...your CHOICE. You do NOT have to justify your choice to ANYONE.





Tell them that your choice is not up for discussion or debate. Then change the subject. If they bring it up again, restate your position of ';Not talking about that'; and inform them that if they insist on continuing with this line of conversation you will be forced to leave. If they persist....LEAVE.





My husband and I are also child free and my husband has been sterilized. We are both 30. Our families know our position and don't bother us about it. We rejoice when one of our siblings has children, but we just don't want one of our own.
wow thats obnoxious . just keep ur kool when this happens cus u dont wanna give them a reason to believe y they should b yellin at u in the first place. but yeah that sounds like no party for them to be doing. u should just ignore them if thats how theyre gonna act. i mean it would b best to just get it straight bcus theyre family now i guess. but if u honostly cant and its that bad. then dont make it ur own problem ignore that bs n live on with ur life. u dont have to make anyone happy but ur husband, u didnt marry the rest of his family. hope this helped
you are never ever obliged to explain yourself to anyone! why do you want to be friend with anybody like that? you are 44 and hubby 57, just tell them its none of their damned business and to deal with it as you are very happy with your lives the way it is!


dont worry, you really shouldnt care


xx
You're 44? There's nothing left to explain... The woman parts don't work so well for childbirth after 40... In fact, it can be dangerous for you and a prospective baby...





If it ever comes up, which it probably won't... Just say, ';We're too old to just be starting a family... I don't want teenagers when I'm in my 60's.';
tell them that its your decision. they cant tell you hoe to live your life. talk to your husband about this. if he feels the same way as you do then noone else should have a problem with hoe you live your life.
just stop thinking that they hate you. just always stay happy. show them that you're always happy.....keep a genuine smile on....and you'll continue to be happy....for the sake of your baby