Why do people who reproduce say that the childfree by choice are selfish?

Isn't it more selfish to bring more people into this world that's so unfair and violent?Why do people who reproduce say that the childfree by choice are selfish?
I am so ';Childfree'; that I knew it when I was 15. I started seeking a vasectomy when I turned 18, and succeeded when I was 21. I have been called selfish, gay, communist, heathen, and so on.





People whom are loving parents that planned their children, help them study, and so forth, are uncommon. They know what sacrifices it takes to be a ';real parent';. But they are few and far between. They do not call us selfish like the others do.





The majority of parents are of the type that have no business having children at all. They had accidents and therefore never completed their education. The suffer financially as a result. They see our education, our vacation photographs, new cars and so forth. Many are jealous. They wish they had made the choices we did.





They are unhappy because we represent one out of every five Americans. More young people are joining with us, and that means our voting power is increasing. We don’t vote for the causes they find close to their hearts (public assistance, etc).





They also don’t want their young adult children exposed to us. If their children see our standard of living, they will also become “Childfree”. That means the breeders might never become grandparents.





Some of the worst haters of the “Childfree” are single parents. They feel contempt for us because we keep them out of our “dating zone”.Why do people who reproduce say that the childfree by choice are selfish?
Have you ever hear an educated person say that you are selfish? I have not.





It never fails that some friends' cousin, brother, sister, or friend, or new mail clerk at work, will call me selfish. They are almost always the type that never finish high school because they had a baby.





Misery loves company. If they can somehow convince you to lower your standard of living to theirs, then they feel better about themselves.
There are many people who should never have children... (Including some who actually had them...)
I can see a person who can't bear children being angry/jealous, but why people who can have kids? Its everyone's right to choose not to have children until they are financially and mental capable. Some people just don't like children, which is their choice.


Who knows, it may actually really be a non-selfish choice. I know a couple who are both sickle-cell carriers and its a 75% chance their offspring will have full blown sicklecell, so they have stayed child free on purpose.
How about both groups not asking such a personal question and putting a value judgment on the other?


If they're childless; if it's by choice, or they're unable to conceive, it's none of my business.


If they have children, it's none of my business, either.
Jealousy.





There is nothing that you can do to ruin your chance at future prosperity more than having a child. And most people who say that having a child is more important to them than financial stability are not quite prepared for living with that fact.
No its not selfish not to reproduce. Its not selfish to reproduce. it is selfish to abort.
given population growth, the most selfish thing one can do is reproduce.
I don't know why people say that. Personally I think it's stupid to see either choice as selfish. We should all have a choice. Some people really desire to have children, some people have no such desire. Neither group is any better or worse than the other. Reproducing has both pros and cons. I think people should be less judgemental and just respect each other's choices.
I don't know why some people say that. I believe everyone has a choice to have children or not. Some people who have children actually should not, since they do not take care of them themselves. I have three children by choice, do not want more, and am able to do for them what they need. I don't believe I am selfish and neither is my best friend who choses to be a mother of a cat and not real children. Each to his/her own, Everyone must respect the choice of others.
I haven't heard that before, but I have heard ';As an upstanding citizen and a well-balanced person it is your responsibility to rear children';. What a load! I think the world would be a better place if people who shouldn't be having kids stopped having kids rather than if all the people in the world who could have kids did.


Good parents can help a child adapt to the harshness and coldness and violence of the world.
Good question, I don't why they say that?


I agree completely about bringing children into the world at this time!
Because they're sharing their lives with others,


while the other people are living with only one other person or by themselves. They might see it as selfish because they have ot devote so much time and energy int their ';family'; and the other single/couples don't have to, and because they have not had kids by choice it makes them look a little selfish in the perspective of the family man/woman.
They are selfish even if nobody says so.


Now read all of the narcissists' answers.
So are you saying it would have been more fair for you to not be here right now? I mean, if YOUR parents had chosen not to reproduce, then you would have never experienced life. Is it worth having the bad times so that you can also have the good times, or would you just rather not exist?





By the way, I don't say that child-free people are selfish for not having children, but I have noticed that people who have never had children often act more peevish and spoiled when faced with an inconvenience, than people who have been parents. Most parent are used to putting their own wants and needs second to the wants and needs of their children, therefore they handle inconveniences and disappointments a whole lot better than most single people.