But what do you think of those who choose to be childfree? I've heard some people call childfree individuals ';selfish';. Why would they come over as being selfish?What do you think of those who choose to be childfree?
I think that people that choose to be childfree is really doing the right thing. Whatever the reason might be...I think if
someone had an unwanted child it would be really sad. If anyone wants to be childfree, well that's their right and I wouldn't call it being selfish at all.What do you think of those who choose to be childfree?
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I think that if you decide not to have children you are not being selfish, it is your choice. It is better to me in a home that a Mom and Dad love you and truley want you. Some people would call it selfish but why bring a child in the world that two people don't want and they will not give the child what the child needs.
I think it's fine, you're personal choice... adopting is admirable and actually a blessing, rather than bringing more babies into the world, you are providing a loving home for one in need.
Your feelings may change, our daughter said the same thing, now she's married with a 4 year old.
i'd rather see someone childfree than have children they did not want or could not care for.
well if that is what you want then you need to ignore what other people say Selfish umm selfish is having a baby for your own needs when the world is the way it is!
or selfish is meaning i want to care for myself and not another offspring!
as i see both ways are selfish but sence over 80% of the world is selfish and self absorbed. it's a choice one has to make!
I am very good friends with this older couple who never had children (their choice) and most of my life i never wanted it to! more so when there are babies having babies and those babes end up in other care! Adobtion is great! if you feel like doing that!
But my older friend who opted out of having kids they do get to be more selfish because of that but over all they are far from selfish people! they look out for them they don't go overboard and talk all about them selfs! That have lasting friendships and truely are GREAT people!
They are able to do what they want when they want it!
so do what you want to do don't let others control you by guilting you to do something you really don't want to do!
Plus as you said your young you may change your mind I wouldn't worry about it untill you have a partner to talk this over with! because your partner is the only opinion that really does matter!!
Good luck!
Well, it sounds like you do not want to be childfree in the popular defenition. I think It's great that you would want to adopt. I know that having children is a God given power and I know some people are gonna disagree with me and that's ok. Not everyone uses that power for good. However, I think as women it seems unnatural to not want to have a baby of her own. Since you asked what I think about those who choose to be childfree, I think that they do not realize the beautiful blessings that come from having a child of their own. You can't replace that sort of joy ANYWHERE ELSE!!! You just can't not matter how involved you are with other peoples children. Sorry. I think that people that CHOOSE to go childfree are CHOOSING a life without true joy and growth.
I don't have any set answer for this. If a person claims they don't want children because they don't feel they can be a good parent and they don't want to have a child and cause harm, then I think they are wise. If a person says they don't want kids because they don't feel they can afford to properly care for them, then I think this person is mature. If he/she claims not to want children because they don't want to bring a child into this world because of ';how bad the world is';, then I think that person is disillusioned about family matters. If they were to say it was because they didn't want to give up their party life and free time, then I would say they were selfish.
There isn't only one answer. I really don't care that someone decides not to have children,but if I am told of it, I don't come to an opinion based soley on the fact that he/she decided not to have children. I take the whole story.
i agree with ';some people.'; choosing to be childfree IS selfish. most of the time. but i also believe it's honest and responsible. i myself can admit that i might be too selfish to raise a child and thats okay. if one does not believe they have enough in them to give everything they've got to their child, then i don't think they should be parents. and if somebody decides they can't sacrifice all the things they would have to to be a good parent, then they're doing the best thing by deciding not to.
go adoption!
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