Why do childfree people face harassment and ignorance from others? Why do people always assume childfree people will change!? Whats the point of having children?Why do childfree people face harassment and ignorance from others?
I agree with you!
It's unfortunate that people can't just live their lives without being jugded!
Just because I don't want children doesn't make me any less of a person than someone who does!
It doesn't make me a child hater, I actually love kids, I work with them everyday, I just don't want any of my own, I enjoy the lifestyle I live.
Some may call me selfish for not wanting children, but I don't see how I am any more selfish then the person who has 3 or 4 kids?Why do childfree people face harassment and ignorance from others?
Not everyone harasses childless couples, I know I don't. What's the point of having children you ask, well this is different for each person of course. Some want to carry on a family name, some just like kids and want em, some feel the need to have a child or children to complete the family unit. Just as well some decide against reproduction for many many different reasons. For example, the expense involved, the hassle as some may see it to become parents, the thought of the life long dedication to parenthood and whatever else people may think and feel. I feel having children is the choice of the couple and they should NOT feel bad if they choose not to reproduce! But on the other hand if the harassment is coming from the would be grandparents, understand that they have a desire to be grandparents and that is okay too. Who knows, maybe in the future you will decide to have children and if you don't, that's perfectly okay!
Mary in Beulah, MI. USA
I don't know which post you are talking about, but I definitely see enormous amounts of ignorance being written in this forum.
It has nothing to with ego when most people have children I'm sure. I wanted to have children because at the time I loved my ex, and we both wanted to have a child together.
I wanted a child with my wife because I loved her, and we both wanted to have a baby together. It was not selfish, in fact it is one of the most unselfish things you can do, because when you have children...your life is now put on the back burner, and you start living for them. People that are saying its selfish etc...need to remind themselves how the hell they got here.
Having children is actually a function of the ego to reproduce itself in a new offspring. Not all people think they would make good parents, so they do not try. Others think that they want freedman from childbearing, rearing. and the extremely huge costs associated with the experience.
I've known some long time married who never wanted kids and have lived lives filled with travel, dining, concerts, volunteering. etc. I've known other couples who wish they could have had a child. I've seen couple who tried for year only to adopt later on and were miserably abusive parents. I've seen people who weartied 20 years only to prodcce emotionally challenged kids
Ignore opinions on the subject.
...a famous quote: opinions are like rear ends. Everyone has them and they all stink.
Because, Ignorance is the root of all evil. Your personal choice is your darned personal choice. [Haven't I said it before when I have answered your questions?] Some childfree people change, some don't. The point of having children. I've never really thought about that, but as a young woman, I can say that having a kid, would be a life changing experience for me, because the kid is in a vulgar language, ';gut of my gut'; so to speak. As long as you don't harm my kid and you don't harm others with your childfree ways, then I don't mind, nor should I harrass you.
You answered your own question in the title: Ignorance.
Kudos to you for making that important decision. People should not have kids just because everyone else is having one. Kids are not a fashion statement. They are life-changing and a lot of work. Not everyone should have them.
I had kids during a time that I should not have had them. It was hard on everybody. Don't get me wrong, I am very glad that I DID have them. However, I went through a rough time and it was unfair to my kids that they had to go through that rough time with me.
I don't know what question you are referring to, but I am a parent.
I congratulate people who chose not to have children. Not that I don't love my son, and I wouldn't change things for the world, but children take a lot of work, a lot of money, and a lot of time. I can completely understand someone not wanting to do that.
I actually try to talk some people out of having children (not everyone, but those I don't think fully understand the commitment and how much it changes their lifes).
If you don't want children, then don't. I get harassed for not have more children! Rather then getting into it, I simply tell them that I physically can't, and there is nothing to fix it, usually shuts them right up. Especially if I get a sad look on my face. If they bring up adoption I ask them for the $20,000+ for it. ha
I can't speak for you and why you don't want to have children. I can understand it in some ways. I feared having children when the 9/11 attacks occurred. I was married and 24 years old and seriously considered not having kids because this evil world would just murder my innocent children for their nationality. However, I realized that letting terrorists steal my dreams of being a mother was in a way letting them win. I do have 2 beautiful daughters now and I am so blessed for them being here. I do wonder what I'd be doing if children never entered the picture. Would I have a more successful career? Would I drive a nicer car? But hands down, my babies make me feel like I matter and that's priceless.
I think the choice to have children is a personal decision. Nobody has the right to criticize or put you down if you decide not have kids! You know, I made the decision to have children and I'm glad I did! I love being a mom and my husband loves being a dad, but it's not for everyone! I would rather people not have kids then have them and resent them! There are too many unwanted children in this world as it is.
As far as the question I think you're referring to.... She's clearly a lunatic! Nobody in their right mind would say what she said!
I was childless til I was 34, and married 13 years by choice. Yes, I got that question and a couple of times was called selfish for not having kids.
Those people tended to be self-righteous 'backsides' whose opinion I didn't respect anyway. Also, rather a personal thing to be pushing.
Children DESERVE to be wanted. If you don't want them, there is no good reason to have them IMHO.
Plenty of noble things a person can do with their life, with or without kids. Plenty of crappy parents too.
It was never mandatory to have children in this world and not haveing a child in no way makes you less of a human being ... When people choose to harrass someone who is childless does that not show their level of intelligence ,which would be somewhere around plant life ......lol.... One thing you should know though , when one does have children it does change some things about you that you wouldn't ordinarily feel ... I myself remember how i felt before children and how much it changed something inside me when i had a part in creating another life .... That is a feeling that i find it hard to imagine living without .... As i said before , in itself it makes you no less than who you are , i think it simply makes you more of who you really are deep down inside , or maybe it simply brings it to the surface .... One thing is true , it does change us , i only hope that for most it is for the better .... I agree with you though that it is foolish to harass someone because thay have not ........ Is that not the freedom of choice that God gave us all ?..................
Child free people wouldn't have to face harassment and ignorance if they wouldn't go around telling people that they are child free, if you wouldn't ask questions like this people on Y!A couldn't harass you and as for off the web don't tell anyone your child free unless they ask, so in some ways you bring this harassment on yourself.
Your Prince has Spoken
Do they? When I was childfree I was never harassed by ignorant people, or any other people. Now that I have children, I'm not harassed either.
You should consider whether maybe you take offense too easily. We are all entitled to express our points of view, and you really don't have a right to be offended by what other people think, in a general way - only by what they think of YOU.
let me tell you, i'm 24 and decided that i didnt want to have kids...every single member of my family either called me selfish or said i'm too young and will change my mind soon...my question is why is it anyone's business?
people have kids for selfish reason! and they say we're selfish...think about it...why does one ahve kids? especially in today's world? 1- it's a way to immortalize yourself, 2- to not be alone, 3- to carry your name...which of those reasons are not selfish reasons? why would you want to bring kids in this painful and ahteful world??
who really is selfish now?
Ha ha. I've asked myself this lots of times.
The ';breeders'; have to justify why you get to have a fabulous life (child free) while they have to slave and tirelessly raise their spawn.
I don't let it bother me! In fact I rub it in everytime I get to sleep in to noon and every trip I take to a fabulous locale. I also have less wrinkles and black circles under my eyes.
I agree....I am a teacher and that is one reason why I do not WANT kids.. I deal with their kids all day long. Their kids have hit me, have called me a white bit#@ and so much more. Even though it is different when they are you own, I do not want to find out!
i dont have kids,but i dont get harrassed either.i think u change when u have kids because u have to make more right decisions because u have to think about the kids to.
Hai,
This is a mental level of people , not to think about peoples only if husband %26amp; wife are happly than do not think of people just thay will talk %26amp; furgets, that is a life.
Enjoy %26amp; enjoy.
O.K.
PRAKASH K
we all have our own feelings, opinions, views, and ways of seeing things, whether or not you have children, you still count in this world
I don't have kids either but I don't feel ';harassment'; from anybody about it.
Childless couples face harassment because PEOPLE are stupid.
Tell them to go to HELLo..............oops.
Everyone always knows HOW to do YOUR life better than you. Where have you been??????????? Ha
i agree with u--that posted was a crazy beotch--i feel sorry for her kids--hateful wench! i have 3 kids but i couldnt give a rats azz if someone didnt want children!
The point of having children is because children bring a unique joy to life that a person can never experience of pure love, pride, and happiness. The beauty of a part of you and a part of your partner bring to LIFE out of your love for one another. Unless people have children there is no way they can experience that kind of love. I know a few people who had a baby by accident after 8 years and no plans of children and after the child was born they could not believe what they didn't realize they were missing in life.
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