Is it normal to hate parents for their harassment of the childfree?

Now I'm childfree. Whenever I ask a childfree question, these parents criticize and judge me because of my status, telling me I should think about it, I'm too young, I'll change my mind.





I really don't want kids, like never. I'm not a kid person and I wish parents would respect that. But sometimes, they make me want to hate them.





Is it normal to hate parents for their harassment or judgement of the childfree?Is it normal to hate parents for their harassment of the childfree?
Yes, and no. Honestly are you going to lower yourself to their level? Hate is their only way of lashing out. You can outsmart them by opening up a can of vitamin ';I'; - IGNORE. That is what I do! :)





I just asked a question recently, and some parent attacked me. Someone else reported her for abuse and her rude answer got deleted. There are a few that get on here and call us psychopaths. You can report them for abuse, but often the staff seems to favor them.





I asked the question, ';What is the youngest man to have a vasectomy, without having children?';. Twice it was deleted as violating the rules. What was the violation? The staff did not respond to my request.





Some guy asked, ';Why can't I get a vasectomy when I have no children?';. I told him he could. Someone sent me a nasty message (maybe his wife).





I don't hate them, but I sure get annoyed by their predilection for prejudice. We just have to be strong and not lower ourselves to their level. The rude parents are only a small percentage even though they are long remembered. The majority of the people are either child free, or they are respectful parents. I just tell the rude ones to read Wikipedia-Childfree, so they can become enlightened.





I will get some nasty messages for this answer. At least one rude parent will report it as a violation.Is it normal to hate parents for their harassment of the childfree?
I'd have to say yes. I get that myself. I'm a teacher and made the decision several years ago to not have children. I enjoy teaching them and being around them, but I don't know that I would have enough energy to give my children what they needed after I'd spent the day teaching. I'd also hate to have my teaching suffer because I was spending too much time with my kids, so I decided to not have any. Plus, after teaching for a few years, I really didn't want any.
its it normal yes! but i personally think doing what you do upon another isn't very healthy!


mentally!


everyone has opinions and judgements but judgements are not that good!


your judgeing them because they are judging you!


what you want '; wishing others would respect your choice'; how will you ever get that if you don't respect there choice???





I know how you feel when you tell someone you don't want kids!


i'm best friends with a couple who did just that! They have what THEY want now what someone wants them to want!


frankly if you encounter someone who don't like your wishes just tell them i'm sorry you don't agree but bottom line it's MY choice for MY life!


then ask them would you want to grow up in a house where your not truely wanted... then why should i bring someone up in a house like that!





for the long time i didn't want kids! but now i do! I see the joys but i have always liked kids! I don't think it's anyone's choice but there own.. but opions are like butt holes everyone has one!





try to ignore them.. as hard as that can be just lay down your law and tell them that you don't think it's right to be judged on your choices but if they so deem it nessarry to judge then they might be judged by you for having kids!!!





don't sweat it!
People with children tend to think they have come to some sort of break through in their life.





And they have.





They have experienced something from a different perspective. They took the steps to make that happen for better or worse.





They don't, however, have to right to tell you how you should live. No one does. They may throw out advice to you but that is all it should be.





Don't be pressured. Sit back and enjoy the fact that you are only splitting your pay check between me, myself and I.





We walk different paths in life as people; neither one right or wrong.
I have lots of friends who are childless...I'm talking married for 20 years and childless... but I have 3...I understand a real friend ';not acquaintance'; asking...So, do you plan on having kids? Once you answer ';No';


they really should drop it...I like it better I get really great gifts from bunches of Aunties and Uncles,lol...my babies get lots of attention too because they are the only ones...
Other people shouldn't bug you for your choices. it's your life, after all. you shouldn't get emotionally involved in their issues, anyway.
It must be difficult. They mean well and you just have to go with that.
I think it is. I don't know if it's just such a strong instinct to reproduce, or that people are so self-absorbed that they can't imagine a different lifestyle from their own is satisfying, but I get the same thing.


I am married and after many soul-searching conversations with my husband, we have concluded that our life does not really support the raising of children now (we will not be able to give them the time and reasources they need), and when we will be ready, we will be too old.


That does not stop EVERYONE (co-workers, distant acquaintances, people we hardly know) from insisting that we really do want children and should get on having them right away. Even when I talk to others who say they don't want children and I say, ';Me neither,'; they say, ';Oh, but you'll change your mind, you'll be pregnant soon.'; I don't care about the judgment of others. If we brought a child into our world now, he would be in day care or with relatives most of the time and spend almost no time with us (we work long hours, including the ones where kids are out of school and should be with their parents), and we would have very little money to give for the child to have what he needs, much less wants. I can't imagine being so selfish as to have a child in these circumstances, but evidently a lot of other people can.
Why would they even discuss it with you? You're apparently not married because you said I instead of we and it's not like a man can even have kids without a woman anyway...get over it. Stop asking childfree questions and I'm sure you'll not hear comments from those hateful parents of yours. Sounds like you're looking for trouble.
What do you mean, ';ask a childfree question';? It's not even a question most parents would bug you about till you got up into your late 20's or thirties at least. You sound very young and ignorant. My guess is you're barely out of puberty. . Wait till you grow up and then decide.
First off never say never bub! Secondly why are you even having this conversation with people. If they ask just say I dont know, perhaps if I meet the right woman, we will see.


Stop making it such an issue.