2) If your family criticized you, what did you do to get them off your back?
3) If you met a girl/guy who wanted kids and you liked her/him very much, would you convince her/him not to have kids?
4) Is it hard to find someone who likes to be childfree indefinitely as well?
5) If you told your parents you didn't want kids, did they turn your words around, like saying you'll have them one day?
6) Did people call you selfish just because you prefer to be childfree?
7) If you were to have sex with your spouse, what would you do to keep from getting pregnant?
8) If your parents wanted you to have kids, would you reject their decisions and remain childfree anyway?
9) Would life be easier with or without children in your life?For those of you who prefer to be childfree indefinitely...?
1. yes
2. I tell them to make my loser brother get a girlfriend, so he can have kids.
3. No, you cannot convince people of anything. I met a bunch of guys who wanted kids soon, and had to say farewell. They wouldn't have been right for me anyway.
4. Yes, it's hard, but it's worth it. I'm lucky to have found a great man who agrees with me about almost everything, including kids. If I had settled for one of those other guys, I'd probably be very unhappy now, in many ways.
5. Yes, everyone always says you'll want kids someday. It's their way of holding out hope that someday you'll be as miserable as they are, with all the life sucked out of them, and someday you'll go through the same torture they endured.
6. Yes, especially white power people. They act like it's my duty to make white babies. I love being white, but I find the idea that I must be a baby factory to be a good white person hilarious. There are gobs of white kids no one cares for out there, and I don't see any white power people adopting them.
7. There's tons of ways. I've never had an abortion. If I can stop myself from getting pregnant, anyone can.
8. yes, of course.
9. easier, obviously. Not just because of the financial aspect, but think about the stress you would endure worrying about someone molesting your kid or kidnapping them or killing them, any time you let them out of your sight. I stress about my nieces and nephews, and they're not even mine. I can't imagine what their parents go through.For those of you who prefer to be childfree indefinitely...?
1) No, not really. My mom used to wail about wanting grandchildren, but I think she's accepted that it isn't going to happen.
2) In some cases, it just takes time.
3) I think we'd have to come to a point where my partner realizes that if he stays with me, there will be no kids. If he decides he wants kids, he's going to have to find someone else.
4) I've been in my relationship for a long time. In some cases, it's easier for a childfree woman to find a partner.
5) I don't recall that happening.
6) Nobody's called me selfish yet. If they do, I'll point out that having kids so you can spread your DNA or whatever is pretty selfish.
7) I used the pill or Depo for a long time, but stopped using that when I was in my mid-30s. I'm looking at getting a tubal soon.
8) Yep. And at my age, it's pretty much too late for me to have them.
9) Oh, it's far better without kids.
1) Has your family ever criticized you just because you don't want kids? No, my brothers both reproduced, so I was ignored. If they hadn't popped some kids out, omg.
2) If your family criticized you, what did you do to get them off your back? N/A
3) If you met a girl/guy who wanted kids and you liked her/him very much, would you convince her/him not to have kids?
Nope, I wouldn't stay with them. It wouldn't be fair.
4) Is it hard to find someone who likes to be childfree indefinitely as well? As you age, it gets easier and easier. Most people are tired of it, lol.
5) If you told your parents you didn't want kids, did they turn your words around, like saying you'll have them one day? Of course. If there's an opportunity for guilt-tripping, it had to be taken by my parents.
6) Did people call you selfish just because you prefer to be childfree? Of course. Since they were being disrespectful to me, I either didn't bother to respond, or I said I'd prefer not to share their misery (I'm very sarcastic).
7) If you were to have sex with your spouse, what would you do to keep from getting pregnant? The pill or if I was really worried, surgery.
8) If your parents wanted you to have kids, would you reject their decisions and remain childfree anyway? Yep. Been there, done that.
9) Would life be easier with or without children in your life?
Easier, no doubt about it. And for me, happier.
1) Yes
2) I ignore them completely. I've already explained my choice and it doesn't need repeating.
3) I wouldn't waste my time persuading them to change their mind. I would tell them my choice is final and if they can't handle that, we should go our seperate ways.
4) I met a few people who want to be childfree for the remainder of their lives.
5) My mother respects my decision completely. It isn't an issue with her, but my dad is another case. He thinks I'll change my mind someday, but I know I don't want any kids.
6) In a round about away, people have hinted that I'm selfish, but I don't care what they think. The only opinion that matters is mine.
7) I'll never have a spouse because I've decided to remain single for the rest of my life.
8) Yes
9) For me, life is easier without children.
Wow, this is a long one.
1) Yes.
2) I told them it was my choice and I just don't see wanting children one day. Of course, I then did sick them on my brother-- telling them to harp on him to have kids.
3) I didn't convince my b/f to NOT have kids, but I clearly stated my beliefs on the matter. I said that I very may well MIGHT want kids some day, but I also might not. I was clear and told him he needed to decide if this was a ';deal breaker';.
4) Honestly I've met more WOMEN who want to be childfree then men. In fact, I don't think I've met a man in a while who never wants kids. I'm sure they're out there, but I find it odd that men seem to be the ones who want children more.
5) Yes. My mom went on and on about how I would change my mind on day.
6) I never was told I was ';selfish'; but that I would regret it one day and that I wouldn't be ';fufilled as a woman'; if I didn't have children.
7) The regular means to avoid pregnancy.
8) Of course. Its my life, I can't have the children FOR them. They would be my children and I would fear having them under any condition that would make me not love them to the greatest degree. I will NOT have children just because someone else told me I should.
9) Hmmm, it would be cheaper, I can tell you that. And your life is your own so you can just get up and go somewhere if you want. But then again, you'll have no one by your side in your old age and no one to raise to better society or make an impact on the world.
1) Who cares about criticism?
2) Ignore them.
3) I would leave them and find someone who didn't want kids.
4) No.
5) Ignore them.
6) So what?
7) Condoms.
8) Yup--it's your life, not theirs.
9) Much easier. I will only say this because my daughter never comes to YA: having kids can be extremely difficult. NOT having them isn't. I never wanted children--she was unintentional. That said, I couldn't live without her. But never let anyone dictate your reproductive status.
1. Yes
2. I told them that it was worse to have a child that I didn't want than to refrain from having children. It didn't always work.
3. I might try to see how serious they were about wanting children, but if they genuinely wanted them, I wouldn't pursue a relationship.
4. Yes. I married a man who had two children from a previous marriage and didn't want any more.
5. They tried, but after I had a tubal ligation, they gave up.
6. All the time.
7. I had a tubal ligation.
8. Yes.
9. Without.
1) Yes.
2) I told them that it's my decision and that they should just leave me alone.
3) If he was that serious about having kids, I'd tell him to find a potential mother.
4) I'm not looking, but I assume it's a strain.
5) They figured I'll change my mind one day. No, I won't.
6) Only a few trolls on this forum.
7) Go on the pill and use condoms. I'm also considering egg donation.
8) Yes. I don't have to put my life on hold just because they want grandchildren. My brother can handle that 鈥?he's always wanted kids.
9) Much, much easier.
Chriss 99, stop posting that same message over and over again when someone asks about wanting children. It gets really tiresome.
It matters little what childless feminists think. They are irrelevant because their DNA will eventually be absent from the planet.
There *is* a god.
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